Drip, Drip, Drop.
Samsara means the cycle of death and rebirth to which life in the material world is bound. We are asking you to awaken your spirit.This work is not something to be taken lightly. When you play with magic shit gets weird. Your life can change when doing this work. Your feelings do not have to be rational, or accurate as long as you are able to express them somehow, they are valid.
Support.
Your people will be ever so helpful for the come down. Hugs, cuddles, and physical touch is a great way to tell your body “don’t listen to hormone B, we actually do need hormone A.” This can include sensual stimulation such as baths, massage, orgasms, tickle-attacks, weighted blankets, etc.
Self.
When you notice the negative thoughts starting, take pause. Be as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else. You’re not broken. There’s nothing wrong with you. Your body is in fact working as it is designed to, you’re just in a temporary state of chaos while your hormones recalibrate. You’re going to be ok.
What is drop?
The drop experienced from our events may not only be one of a biochemical process. It is also process of loss/grief, or a reaction to loss that is part of identity change. When you show up to our events, we ask you to be your authentic self, the self that no one on the outside may be. We tell you it’s okay to take off all of those layers that have been put upon you from generations of shame, guilt, and fear around sex. That doesn’t come lightly or easily. It takes incredible bravery. Give yourself all of the credit, you’re doing the work.
This “Drop” looks different for everyone. Some people feel blasé about the “normal” world. You might feel sad or depressed. You might cry a lot. Your energy could be super low. When you’re in the middle of it, it can be overwhelming. The emotions that can surface during and after our temple time are necessary to address.
Don't keep them bottled up.
Write them down. Talk about them.
You just have to get through your feelings.
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Abi
Our first night at a private club began with scening. We found a skilled top, went through their entire bag of goodies and made a BIG OL’ PILE. Shocker, we were not prepared to handle drop. Not our own drop, not our spouses drop from watching us in action. None of it.
We felt like the world was against us. We were falling apart. We, obviously, are the worst because of the things that fill our body with pleasure. We didn’t understand why our “vanilla” spouse was also experiencing feelings.
We weren’t prepared or ready to face the emotional rawness that comes with bearing your soul in such an intense way.
What we’ve learned is that prep is key. Make plans for after. Make plans with a partner. Get your “aftercare kit” prepped. Hang a hammock and lose track of yourself in a book. Something. Anything. Stay out of your own head and remember that we are magic.
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Xander
For me drop can hit anywhere between right after the event or even days later. Usually it’s physical and emotional in that I feel a distinct need for a nap, food and snuggles as my energetic body is zapped.
After holding space and containers of safety for so many people and finally being able to come home, I usually have to eat a huge and crash into by bed for several hours. The following day is usually shot as I’m needing to recoup what energies I expelled the day before. Typically I choose to stay close to home, with very few people to interact with. Going out to the store or to a restaurant only hinders my recuperation time. I spend the day making myself hearty food including breakfasts, which is something I rarely do as I’m usually fasting until noon.
Just the awareness that it’s something that’s coming also helps to ease the transition. I no longer question what the heck is going on and why I’m feeling so low. It doesn't make the feelings of the low feel any better but at least I have the reason for it and a reassurance that it’s something that will pass if I choose to take care of myself.